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How often do you see a guy on the street and want to run up and hug him or at least say hello? You might be surprised by how often men think about doing that same thing. If they’re not ignoring your calls, it’s because of an argument that needed closure before either party was going to move forward with life–relationship wise. They need space but don’t know what else to ask for when everything else has been said.
This article provides some tips on letting go after arguments in order for both parties involved can get back into their lives more easily. It also discusses why guys require this time alone without a woman present and offers advice from other women who have shared similar stories as well as experienced experts so that you can get on with your own life as well.
A Guy’s Perspective: “Women always want to cuddle and talk about what happened, but I just need space.”
“It was more than just a simple argument; it felt like we were breaking up. And all of this happened in the span of five hours.” -Tiffany from California
What Women Want To Hear: Let her know that she is still important to him even if he needs some time alone after arguments or when they’re not getting along. That way, she knows that his feelings for her are strong enough to withstand anything–even their disagreements. It also reassures her that there will be an opportunity for them to reconnect at another time.
When Women Need Space: “If I know you’re upset or mad at me, then even if we make up later on that day, it still will feel like we never really finished the talk.” -Ella from New York City
“It’s OK to take a break and just stay home for awhile before coming back together again.” -Sophie from Chicago
A Guy Needs To Know That He Doesn’t Have To Be Alone: Even if he needs some space after an argument, she can let him know that she’ll be there when he’s ready. Telling him this is reassuring because it lets her reassure herself as well–knowing that they have each other no matter what their feelings are about the argument.
“It’s tough for a guy to be alone, and I’m not here just because I want space.” -Olivia from Boston
What Guys Need To Know: “I get that sometimes you need some time to yourself when we fight. But don’t take it personally if she needs space from me too.” -John from Washington D.C. Maybe he was the one who started the argument in the first place or said something hurtful–whatever his role may have been, he needs to know that this doesn’t mean she wants him out of her life forever..just temporarily while they both cool off and process their feelings about what happened between them so they can reconnect later on with an open heart and mind.
What Girls Need To Know: “I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been sitting on the couch watching football and my wife comes up to me all sad. Half of the time, she’s crying because we had some type of argument before–and it’s not even about what happened during that game! All guys want is for a girl to be understanding when we need space.” -Pete from Boston
The guy who starts the fight may have gotten angry or frustrated with her in response to something she did, said, or didn’t say. Most likely he was trying his best not to lash out at her too badly but then couldn’t hold back anymore and yelled at her instead. He might also feel guilty about treating her that way and tried to make up for it by doing something nice.
The guy who is being ignored may feel like he’s done his best to apologize in a way she’ll understand, but just can’t bring himself to approach her again right now because of the hurtful things said during their argument. He might be feeling guilty about what happened too or afraid that they won’t get back together if he doesn’t give her space first. Occasionally, guys take time apart from relationships as a cooling off period and don’t want women thinking this means there’s another woman involved–it normally has nothing at all do with them!
What Girls Can Do: “I know I’m not going anywhere so you have no need to worry about me, but it’s obvious that you need time to sort things out. I’ll be here when you’re done.”
What Guys Can Do: “I’m sorry about the way we left things last night and wish there was something I could say or do right now to make up for what happened. Let me know if one of these days is a better day for us to talk…”
“It sounds like everything just got really intense between us after all this other stuff went down and maybe we should take some time apart from our relationship until both of us can think more clearly in order to figure out how best to move forward without hurting each other anymore? What do you want?”
Objective: To help girls understand why guys need space after an argument
I have a lot of experience with this because I am often the one to break up with girls. It usually happens in these instances: they had been ignoring me, and then we end up fighting over something really stupid like who spilled milk on whose shirt..and before you know it they’re kicking down my door and screaming at me for not doing dishes or going out more when all along I was just trying to give them some space!
This is what guys do sometimes too-we get overwhelmed by emotions (even if we don’t want to admit that’s why) and want our own time away from the person that triggered those feelings. We are still thinking about everything constantly but there comes a point where we need to process everything, and that’s when we kind of just shut down.
The problem is this: They may think you’re mad at them for something else or they might not understand why you were so upset in the first place because you never really told them about it (which probably means there was a reason). But even if all those things are true. You can’t force someone to ignore their needs because they don’t know what they want themselves! And trying to get an answer out of him from your anger will only push him farther away-so stop doing it already! If he doesn’t come back then let go..you’ll find somebody who does care enough to give you space..eventually.
If anything, this is a great time for you to get in touch with your own needs and make sure that they’re taken care of. The problem is this: They may think you’re mad at them for something else or they might not understand why you were so upset in the first place because you never really told them about it (which probably means there was a reason). But even if all those things are true. You can’t force someone to ignore their needs because they don’t know what they want themselves! And trying to get an answer out of him from your anger will only push him farther away-so stop doing it already! If he doesn’t come back then let go..you’ll find somebody who does care enough to give you space..
